He Says She Says

She says:

"He wants me to check when the new rubbish collector comes around so that they will collect our rubbish. How am I supposed to know what time they come. I don't have all the time in the world to go and look out the window every few minutes."

He says:

"I don't know why I have to worry about everything that happens in the house. I have to worry about the rubbish even and she is the one who sits at home all day."

She says:

"He interrogates me like I am his worker. Why didn't you ask the autogate repairman what happened when they worked the drill. Did it cause the electricity to trip? What to do now? What does he recommend? Why this. Why that. Why does he interrogate me? This may be the way things are done in the corporate world but this is not the way to run a family."

He says:

"Why do I have to be the one to worry about everything around here? If the electricity goes off again, whose responsibility is it? It always comes back to me." Sigh.

She says:

"Why must she stop her piano? Can't she continue learning just for fun? Why does everything have to be about marks and certificates around here? Why doesn't he appreciate music just because? Stopping the music won't help. She will only stretch her time and in the end we will still have to wait for her to finish her homework before everyone can go to sleep."

He says:

"She can't cope with her school load. Every night we have to threaten to switch off the lights to go to sleep. Where can she find the time to play just for fun. Besides it is not cheap. I also don't want to reward her for playing music just for fun when she says she doesn't have enough time and cannot manage it. She has spent so much time and effort in her music. Look at all her certificates. If I didn't appreciate music, I wouldn't have bought the piano for the family. She can do other things like exercise or other better things during that hour."

She says:

"How can I think of what she can do during that one hour. I have other things to do. I have to go and cook and make sure everything else is alright."

He says:

What I want is for her to work with me not against me. Why must she always be against me? Why does she have to fight with me for everything? Why do I never get any support from her in anything? Why can't she work with me to think of what other things she can do? Nevermind I will think of it myself as I always have.

She says:

"Why does he have to blame me for the boy having to take tuition? I have tried my best but I can't help him now. Why can't I be appreciated for the things I have done?"

He says:

"We are only rewarding him for not paying attention in class. For not paying attention, he gets to have tuition. I don't want to teach the kids the wrong thing. It is also not cheap. How long will this go on. I bet there will be no end to it. I am very unhappy. I don't want to reward the kids for the wrong things."

He says:

"It is her fault for not nipping it in the bud."

She says:

"He blames me for everything. Everything around here is always about studies, rewards, certificates, getting top marks. It is so tiring. I feel drained. I feel weary I feel pressured."

He says:

"She is not paying the bills nor does she worry about the finances. So of course she doesn't have to worry about the children doing well and getting into better schools. We can't afford to send the kids to private schools so of course we must push them to do the best that they can do so that they will have more opportunities. I feel drained. I feel weary. I feel pressured."

Sometimes life gets in the way.....

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